The famous American stress Doctor describes this phenomenon as the source of life’s energy and creativity, analyzing this area also from Selye’s positive approach, focusing on the inspiring effect of controlled and well tolerated stress.
The writer himself has his own demons to deal with, a crushing blow that defines his life – the raising of his handicapped child, Brendon for the past two decades. The sorrow, pain and hopelessness, as he descibes is a „grief”, but he considers it still cathartic - as he became a better man owing to this!
He emphasizes the fact that the fight against negative energies, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, are all of significance to live our lives in a fulfilling and happy way, when fighting with blows, scars and suffering.
Using an analogy that is understood well by everyone, he mentions an example like maintaining a car and filling its tank, demonstrating the importance of safeguarding our energy levels.
Being successful is not dependent on pure luck, it is about being prepared for the challenges life, as he says! He deems it significant in this chapter, to emphasize the parents’ responsibility for their children. A healthy, confident, child with a stable character, adaptible to all situations will develop into a healthy adult who performs well, if the child is brought up with consistent and loving discipline in addition to certain necessary rules and restrictions. The parent’s responsibility should not be to experience just power above the child, it should be about love and consistency, without resentment and temper.
In conclusion it is the richness and quality of the social relationships around, that turns stress into something inspiring, good stress. As he denotes, very similarly to Selye’s approach we have to return to the old truth „Love your neighbour as yourself”.
There is no doubt that the quality and depth of human relations contribute to the growth of our stress-tolerance!
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